Everything I do is a result of what I choose even though quite often it appears to be things that are done to me. When I keep this perspective then the only end game is calm appreciation for what I gain and learn from in each and every experience.
Emotion and feeling is beautiful. Choosing to stay in that emotion is then emotional and that prolonged feeling causes poor judgement and selfishness.
For example; feeling fear or anxiety is powerful and important but it is then wether I use that feeling to react or if I sit low in that feeling as to how I help myself, and others around me, to fall in despair or rise to the lesson presenting itself.
Something I strive daily to get better at in hopes of achieving mastery one day.